Sunday, April 29, 2007

Whooooroooorooo Rescued Whom???

I have to thank my new friend, Bea, for this entry. Her latest entry at her site got me all excited. (See my list of fav blogs in the column on the left & you'll find her.) She wrote about her dogs & the affect they have had in their family's lives. Here is how we came by OUR girls & little guy. Bea's a doggie lover after my own heart!

We belong to Bay Area Greyhound Adoption (BAGA) here in Tampa. We adopted all three of our dogs this past year...yes, in ONE YEAR...from our organization. 'Cause, as the saying goes, you never can stop at just one! (Lays' Potato Chips.)April 1st was our one year anniversary when we started with Kia.

Kia is a beautiful red fawn greyhound with a black mask, who was timid & never wished to race. We had asked to foster to adopt a grey that would get along with cats. We have one indoor cat who is declawed. (Boo the Cat is another story in the making!) But the day we picked up Kia was the day that BAGA was having their semi-annual picnic in Al Lopez Park. I recall when we got her, I kept asking Linda, our BAGA president, if it was indeed ok to walk her around with me. She said, "Sure, go ahead, she's yours." See, that felt funny to me because we'd just had a home inspection for the adoption. It was done by one of my student's parents, Stacy, who is a BAGA mom & member herself. So I couldn't really believe we were being "allowed" to adopt this wonderful, graceful creature, and that I could move around with her!

When it came time to go home, Keith & I walked across the park. A birthday was going on at a picnic shelter. Balloons started whipping in the wind. Kia bolted, but fortunately was leashed. She was the most shy & skittish dog I'd known up to then. Kia didn't know what to make of our mini-van. She didn't know how to get up in it. I had to gently lift her front paws up, then her back paws. I rode in the back with her while Keith drove. She just leaned against me more & more with each turn we made. I just held her & talked softly to her, calling her "my girl". And from that day forward, she has been MY girl. Oh, she loves "Daddy", but won my heart first, thanks to that ride home together. Her ears go up & she turns her head anytime I speak. She has always been jealous for my attention, & when we adopted our other dogs, she insisted on continuing to be the "top dog". Her proudest achievement? It just happened about a week ago. She finally gotover her timidity & learned how to open the screen door with her nose to come back in. She was bursting with pride! Instead of walking in, she bolted in, hopping up & down & wagging her tail as if to say, "Look at me! Look at me! I finally did it!" Then, of course, she expected her favorite treat times two for THAT accomplishment! 

Next...sometime in June... came Krissy who'd been adopted a year prior by a very young girl (teens or twenties) who didn't want her when it came time to move to California. So she returned Krissy to BAGA. When Krissy was returned to BAGA, she was too skinny & afraid of other dogs, especially small dogs. Our youngest son whispered to me, insisting we had to take her home. Our friends, Emily & Lynn, were slated to be her foster moms. But our son said we HAD to have Krissy to help her. He felt so sorry for her. He didn't like how skinny she looked & he has a big caretaker's heart. Emily was so sweet & told us we could have her if we wanted her. After Krissy had her vet visit, they gave her to us. Our girl's search for a new home stopped. She'd won our hearts already.

Now Krissy's our tomboy...racing along the doggy beach at Davis Islands. Her spirit is back. A "Born Free" dog. She WAS a racing dog & two years since being sent to BAGA, she still has the love of racing in her heart. She's a fawn also, but she is a true light brown fawn. (I prefer to think of both girls as blondes since I am! ha!) The first time we took Krissy to the doggy beach...and a few more times afterward...she would freeze & not move on the beach when we entered the gate. "Daddy" would have to coax her. Now she knows that the beach means finding her friends that like to race her. She knows it means getting to swim in the water when she starts to get hot. "Daddy" has filmed her several times while she's racing. She looks like a regal princess, head held high & looking as if she could take on the world!

"Daddy" also takes them to a smaller neighborhood doggy park every day of the work week. It's the funniest thing! Krissy can't wait for me to get out the door in the mornings when I leave to teach. I swear that if she were able, she'd dress me herself, shove my books in my arm, hand me my coffee, and butt me out the door. The best she can do is roo at me to leave AND butt me with her head as if to say, "Would you get out of here already???!!" You should see the disappointment on her face..the resignation...when it's a day she can't go. Boy, does she pout when "Daddy" has to travel. She'll even challenge the rainy days!  

 Come November, last but not the tiniest bit least (yes, pun intended...)...

 Lenny was a fluke. He's an Italian greyhound (IG--Iggy). A blue & white one. BAGA doesn't adopt out Iggys as a rule. Someone just asked our organization to take him. Jonathan & Sharon were his foster parents. Jonathan hoped that it wasn't just anyone who got him. He & Sharon still hoped to see him now & then, so they were excited when we took him. It was Kathy's fault, really! She's one of our other volunteers, and so much like our "PTA mom of the clothes closet". She makes coats for our greys, as well as some bandanas. Kathy walked up with Lenny in her arms that day & I just know she did it on purpose, of course. (HA!) I recall teasing her one time & telling her not to show me any other dogs!

 Iggys have energy & they are compared to cats--curious, mischievous. Lenny made himself at home. He found the stuffing in the couch pillow. He discovered "Daddy's" peanut butter energy bars he used for marathons. And we couldn't say a thing to blame him! Don't you know that pillows are the equivalent of squeaky doggy toys?? And don't you know how much doggies loooove peanut butter?? It all made perfect sense, of course to all of us. 

We were told a man who was one of his previous owners or had been around him had kicked him. They also had him bungy-corded to the sofa so he couldn't get into anything. Due to kicking, it was felt Lenny might not take to men. Let me tell ya...he's Keith's buddy through & through. When Keith goes out of town, he chews his nails & cuddles up with me. He sits in "Daddy's" space on the couch & sits up & cries. He sneaks in to sleep with me. Any other night you'd find him curled up in his little round bed on top of the Lazyboy seat. Oh...and you certainly can't forget the most important thing of all...Lenny must be covered up at night! He loves his blankie. And Heaven forbid he get up to get a drink of water because then "Mommy" is expected to get up & cover him up again! Gee...what a lovin' hoot he is! When I told Kathy,she made me laugh when she told me we've created our own little monster, spoiled as he is! Do I really care to be awakened? Not in the least. It took him a bit to trust us. He still doesn't entirely like having to get into his crate before we go somewhere. He used to stay outdoors after "doing his business", seated just out of grasp, not willing to come in. Now if he decides to have a stubborn day, he just waits for us & then rolls over on his back. We have to sometimes wonder if this is related to his fear of being kicked or punished for something. There are still times when he's skittish or runs to hide behind the chair when he's done something wrong. Like the time Keith came into the living room to find my knitting yarn wrapped all around the dining room & across the living room, so tangled beyond repair that I had to throw it all away. "Daddy" just said, "Oh, boy! Just wait until Mom gets home!" Then he left it just like that for me to see when I walked in the door. It really looked too funny to be mad. Lenny's never been yelled at or punished by us. In return we get the most picture-perfect moments of snuggles & loads of love pouring from those puppy eyes. My favorite pictures are of Keith & Lenny asleep, nose to nose. One is where they are lying down on the couch, Lenny cuddled up in Dad's arms. The other is on the bed with both of them laid out full length...but still nose to nose. Two buddies who have a bond...an understanding.

Our sons always want to know about every funny thing our greys do when they're not home. Every story is relished, no matter how small. And when the boys come in the door, they are given an enthusiastic welcome....all 12 paws-worth!

We started out with it in mind to rescue some greys...our girls & boy.

Instead, they rescued US! 


 

Tuesday, April 24, 2007

What's to be Thankful for...even if it IS Tuesday?!

1. I live in Florida...beautiful weather! :-P to you Northerners with snow! :-)

2. A young son who LOVES to read with me...STILL!

3. A husband who puts up with me.

4. The smell of jasmine & grapefruit blossoms.

5. Having a family, even when they're wacky! sigh...

"Tuesday, Tuesday...Bada..ba.da.da.da"...oh..that's "MONDAY, MONDAY"

Tuesday.

What can be said about Tuesday?

Feels like Monday...times two.

Lovely day at school. One of my "Three T's for Trouble" (all boys with names beginning with T) decided to "pop off". Anger management skills lack. So tantrums prevail. Today was the day that one of my "T's" decided to pop off...not once, but twice. Silly stuff. First time because we didn't sharpen pencils when he wanted to. (We always wait as a class until after the announcements due to late busses.)

The second time he popped off, he did it because he felt he didn't deserve time out for attempting to put a chokehold on someone on the playground. Gee...what DOES he think he deserves for that???

Add to his tantrums that my toe got crushed by his foot as he stomped around. Not intentional. But totally unnecessary.

Fists were slammed against the nearest portable.

I've been a teacher since 1984. Along this timeline, two things concern me. No, let's make that THREE.

1. Kids have become more violent & lack patience.

2. Kids no longer have an attention span. (They can't even listen through a storybook!)

3. Kids no longer have the manners & respect they once had.

Are there exceptions?? Of course! There are a lot of GREAT kids out there. But I sometimes wonder where we're heading. Where have we as parents & as role models  fallen through?

The above child I told you about?? He's in Second grade.

Sadly, I've seen it in Kindergarten, too.

We've got to do a better job. Bring back the caring. Be concerned.

Your kids might thank you one day...

Sunday, April 22, 2007

Thoughts

Five things to be thankful for today...

(Thanks, Gretchen!!!)

1. The hope of finding out soon about the children you wish to adopt.

2. The love of the children I already have...especially the youngest.

3. A beautiful sunny & breezy day at the Davis Islands' doggy park.

4. 22 more days until school is out!!!

5. Knowing that life is good.

Please keep Kimberleigh in mind & prayer (Blog: Did I Shave My Legs for This?). She is fighting cancer again in a new area of her body...and boy, that girl can fight!!! :-) Gotta love her spirit & her spunk! Hang tight, Kim!!!

Wednesday, April 18, 2007

Words

Ever get your feelings hurt by something someone said they can never take back? Ya know...it's usually said by someone you really adore or admire, and they say something that rattles down into your heart like a stone into a dry well. It resonates within your being. And leaves you feeling hollow...

The self esteem that you had...perhaps had even tried to build up...is gone. You know you're good at other things, but with the thing that meant so much to you within the relationship you had...it's just no longer there. Withered.

It's amazing...and torturous...to realize the value of words. They can make you feel like a princess...only to discover you've really been nothing but that other ragged Cinderella the whole time. Incompetent. Worthless. Ignorant. Stupid. Soot.Cinders. Ashes.

They can carry a child so high and so far...with so much love...

Make a genius out of the common.

And bring a lover down so low...wishing for a corner in which to crawl.

A new relationship out of the old. Things are changed. Diminished. Not of value.

Not cherished.

It only takes words. If you take "words" and unscramble it, you find the sword that either rallies for the good, or rends the heart asunder.

"When we put bits into the mouths of horses to make them obey us, we can turn the whole animal. Or take ships as an example. Although they are so large and are driven by strong wings, they are steered by a very small rudder wherever the pilot wants to go. Likewise the tongue is a small part of the body, but it makes great boasts.

Consider what a great forest is set on fire by a small spark. The tongue also is a fire, a world of evil among the parts of the body...

All kinds of animals, birds, reptiles and creatures of the sea are being tamed and have been tamed by man,

BUT NO MAN CAN TAME THE TONGUE...

Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing...This should not be. Can both fresh water and salt water flow from the same spring?...Can a fig tree bear olives, or a grapevine bear figs? Neither can asalt spring produce fresh water."

Some things are forever changed after thoughtless words.

Sunday, April 15, 2007

"Birthing" Again

Has it really been 15 days since my last entry??!!! Wow!!! And so much has happened!

Keith was out of town for all of last week. I think that's the fifth time in a month, thanks to his company's merger. So needless to say, I'm tired. I didn't sleep well again while he was gone. Three hours one night...five on another...and so on.

BUT...

Here's the coolest news!

Keith & I finished up our adoption classes. Then we filled out gobs of paperwork & passed our home study with flying colors. And along comes Saturday.

Saturday...yesterday...was the day the adoption people had a meet-n-greet for prospective parents. You had to have been fingerprinted & had a background check, and completed the above requirements to make it into this m-&-g. It was held at Gameworks, a restaurant & gaming center (which Keith's company coincidently owns) here in Ybor City.

The way the m-&-g was organized was quite interesting. Parents-to-be were asked to put on green t-shirts provided. Name tags were handed out. The green shirts were a cool way to identify us for the children who were up for adoption. I love the way they make the parents stand out & not the kids. That way they won't feel awkward. You know how kids are! Coffee was available, an agenda was handed out, and science boards were covered in photographs of all the kids available, including ones that didn't attend. Parents were sent to a conference room for a welcoming & orientation. 

 We were split into three groups according to numbers on our name tags. The first group stayed in the conference room, and they played a game with the kids in age range approximately of 6-12. The second group (ours) went to the gaming floor to meet the kids in age from 13-17 (our preference). The third group went to the restaurant to meet with the kids in ages 0-5. After a given amount of time, all adult groups rotated to the kids to meet a new age group. It was an excellent idea, since some parents come thinking they want a child...say, age 5...but may actually fall in love with a child...say, age 10.

Something like that happened to us.

We went with the expectation of adopting one, although we went with an open mind on numbers...sort of. We said, "Weeeeeell, maybe two."

We fell in love with THREE. And they are TEEN SIBLINGS! The oldest boy is 17, the sister is 15, and the youngest brother is 14. They are the sweetest kids! They want so badly to be a part of a family. How can we say no?? Especially when the young lady asks you, "Do you want us?". When I answered that yes, we would be interested, she rushed me over to her case manager. Funny how things work...her case manager knows the childrens' counselors knows our case manager knows our Guardian Ad Litem attorney who happens to work with us..and the GAL atty says,  "ya know...those kids are some of our kids we are working with". What a small world, huh?? Could all be in our favor. We hope so.

So now we are looking at how to do our bedrooms. We have five of them, and two bathrooms. It'd be great to have another bathroom, but we've made do with what we've had before & four kids home at a time.

For the first time, I'm trying to think how it will be with another girl around the house. I have two step-daughters, but both in their 30s. They were already grown & married & had kids by the time I came along. Keith & I finished raising our last four boys. Well, almost. The last two are still home, ages 13 & soon-to-be 15.

I was standing in Victoria's Secret yesterday, examining a new bra they have...something that feels like soft, slick styrofoam (very strange!)...when it occurs to me. I'm going to have to buy undergarments for a girl. What about other clothes & earrings & fingernail polish & purses, oh me, oh my. And dealing with monthly hormones. Lordy! I have enough to go around for the both of us! Just ask Keith! He thinks it will be good for me, though. Maybe so. I'm just used to raising boys. I never really cared about what sex of a child God gifted me with. But I'm not ignorant to girls, being a school teacher. And I know what CAN come along with all those teen hormones, boy OR girl.

So this could be an interesting journey. After all, this is the 15 yr old girl...soon to be Sweet 16...who said to me,

"I've always wanted to be a momma's girl. Is that ok with you?"